Do you recall talking with a colleague or employee about a topic where you expressed your opinions, they expressed theirs, and how they differed. Yet when you left the conversation, their opinion dramatically shifted to your point of view. And during the exchange, you believed in your heart that if they implemented your recommendation it would have a positive impact on the way they see their leadership style both on a personal and professional level.
What role does manipulation play in this situation?
Manipulation is DISGUISED as influence. The meaning of manipulation depends on the context of the situation in which it is used.
Do you manipulate to influence a situation that turns bad to good, or manipulate to influence a business opportunity or move a person to action, or use manipulation as a weapon for the purpose of immoral influence?
One thing is certain about manipulators, they are skilled at taking control of any mind that is weak and undisciplined. Anyone with marginal awareness skills is an easy target for manipulators. They revel in the thought of testing our mental toughness and our determination to resist the manipulative pull of the moment.
What common traits exist between the skills of manipulation and leadership?
You should not be surprised to hear that many commonalities exist between leadership and manipulation. These include:
• The ability to inspire others to take action.
. The use of intention.
• The ability to affect the individuals’ psychological and emotional state of mind.
If the commonalities are the same, what is the difference between a leader who manipulates people for the purpose of benefiting others, and a leader who employs manipulation as a weapon to benefit their own agenda?
Leaders fueled with immoral intent use manipulation to fool, control, scheme, or exert unjustifiable influence over a person or situation, exploiting the victim to serve their own agenda. At one time or another, we have all been at the receiving end of their skilled wickedness only to realize later what happened. But how do you know you are being manipulated in a negative fashion?
Self-serving manipulation involves a leader who
• Twists your words to mean something other than your intent to serve the leader’s own agenda
• Magnifies your weaknesses and insecurities so you feel wholly dependent on their guidance
• Redirects opinions you express with ambiguous responses for the purpose of leaving you confused, bewildered and under their control
Leaders fueled with moral intent, by contrast, apply manipulation to sway others to positive action, help them bounce back from a setback, make wise decisions, or guide them toward achieving a purpose that benefits them and their environment.
How do you know you are being manipulated for the better?
• Show greater confidence in using a skill that once limited your options
• Feel mentally and emotionally ready to perform better and move through life with more zeal and motivation
• Express more passion in the meaning of the work you do, exhibiting the energy and desire to do more and contribute more
As professionals committed to moral leadership, we have an uncompromising duty to use our influential skills with awareness and intent. When you apply it with extreme care, and are mindfully aware of its end result, you create a remarkable brand of
Influence has long been seen as an integral part of leadership. Why not make yourself the kind of leader who has the ability to use manipulation that benefits everyone, personally and professionally?
Copyright 2017 Jennifer Touma mindscapemind.com